Life is not a Snapshot!

Wednesday, September 25, 2019 0 Comments A+ a-

Spreading positive mental health awareness to students

It feels awkward to be out of the scene of blogging for about seven months and then suddenly start blogging again! Am I right to feel this way? Whatever your answer, I am convinced that blogging is an essential part of my peaceful existence. It helps me to connect with who I am at my core. It opens the window of my soul and allows me to ventilate. Sometimes, I wonder, ‘how do people survive without writing or a life journal? I think I know the answer (smiling). Not every one is designed to write.

So, how are you?

Youth Workshop on Marriage at
Living Faith Church, Igbogbo, Ikorodu, Lagos
So far, my 2019 has been adventurous. I Dare To Blossom Foundation had its first Mental Health awareness outreach in Community Grammar School Macaulay,Ikorodu, I had the opportunity to shared my Bipolar survival story with District 15/16 at the Daystar Christian Center, I had the opportunity to accompany my husband to inspire young adults with the story of our martial journey at Living Faith Church, Igbogbo, Ikorodu, Lagos.

Want to hear more? Between having to acquire an office space to run my business, going through the process of hiring and ensuring that the business is profitable, managing my home without a domestic help, being an effective mother to two children below 10 years and a great wife to my PreciousRuby, I can say that the journey has been humbling. Very humbling. It has been a learning process, a process that reminds me that life is not a snapshot. Nevertheless, I am glad I have the opportunity to embark on this path.  

I remember vividly, one day, I felt so overwhelmed that I just felt like crying. But the tears would not flow. So I sat still on my bed and just stared at a portion of the wall. By the time my husband saw me, he insisted that I needed to rest. Go to sleep!

The thing about feeling overwhelmed is that it drains your energy and it can make you focus on the things that aren’t working or the disappointments, or the deadlines that hasn’t been achieved. But on the contrast, if you do not take the appropriate steps to stay inspired, you can’t deliver on your assignment. How do you overcome the feeling of 'overwhelm'?

Please recognize that sometimes, what works for me may not work for you because we are formed intricately and uniquely, we aren’t clones and so don’t feel discouraged if you try to apply an advice and you don’t get the desired result.

Here’s my personal experience.

Dr. Afolabi Bushura Aroyewun talking to
teachers about mental wellness
  • When I feel overwhelmed, I talk to friends and loved ones. To people who really care about me. I often say, ‘why surround yourself with people who you can’t be real with? With people who do not love and appreciate you? Why??? You deserve better. Don’t settle for less. Surround yourself with people who truly love you. People who you can talk to without feeling 'prejudiced', or feeling as if you are disturbing them.
  • When I feel overwhelmed, I spend time with myself. I read. I listen to the music I love. I eat the food I crave. I buy myself something I like.
  • When I feel overwhelmed, I rest. I shut down, delegate, retreat, rest until I am re-energized.
  • When I feel overwhelmed, I say and an heart-felt prayer.
  • I meditate on God’s goodness and let gratitude fill my heart.
At Daystar Christian Center 

When you are overwhelmed, What do you do?

Please share with me by commenting on this post or writing me at

My Name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a Full life.

Take Control!

Saturday, August 17, 2019 0 Comments A+ a-

I know when my natural being wants to give expression. I know how it wants to vent and really say it as it 'feels'. I know that this can lead to self-inflicted pain after the scene.  I know that there is nothing in it to  inspire someone else so I try to resist  it. Taking control isn't an easy task. Taking  control requires all your senses to be alert and a deliberate mindfulness to do the right thing.

Take control. 

Take control by constantly improving your character. 

By being committed to becoming a better version of yourself.

By asking the Holy Spirit to help you.

By asking for help from your support team

By acknowledging you strength and weaknesses and forging a way to survive the bad times that amplify your weaknesses. 

By being in charge of your life 

By controlling your spirit.

Take control. 

You can.

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.

The Mentality of Mental Health// Mental Health Month 2019

Saturday, August 17, 2019 0 Comments A+ a-

Most people hardly view difficult times in terms of the impact it makes on them mentally. For such people, mental health conversations are over rated and mental health survivors may just be exaggerating or seeking attention.
I beg to differ.

Mental health is important. As long as you have a brain and a the nervous system,  you have mental health. Mental health is not a taboo word and should  not be treated as such.

If you are facing a difficult phase of life please don't be afraid to seek professional help. Speak to a trained counsellor or to a trusted confident. Speak to God. Tell God how you feel and ask for His help.

If you do not feel like talking about it, it's okay. When you are in  the mood to speak up please do. Life is meaningful when you have a peaceful mind. Speaking up can help you gain a better perspective about your situation, and that in the long run can rekindles hope where hope is lost.

Cheer up!
Please do not give up!

Responsibility Will Enlarge You!

Friday, February 15, 2019 0 Comments A+ a-

Hello friends, I guess it isn’t too late to say Happy New Year? Considering that this is my first post in 2019.
As I write this, it is 4: 09 am, February 16th, the day of the Presidential Election in Nigeria, my birth land and current place of residence. In the midst of all the activities leading to the elections, I have had to carry out several tasks with little or no physical support. These task borders on being a wife, mother, sister, daughter of God, an entrepreneur, and home maker. My reality is that these task aren’t title based, they are roles I need to deliver on.
The good thing is that I am a better version of myself every time I get them done properly without dropping the balls. However the real challenge is in having all the balls in the air and having your eyes on them to ensure that no ball falls. The first thing I must admit is the fact that focus is important in a world of several responsibilities. Regardless of how many things calling out for my attention, I have learned to make four aspects of my life a priority:
My relationship with God
My Mental Health
My relationship with my spouse
My family
Focusing on these four gives me the stability
I need to be effective in the other departments of my life. I woke up this morning with the thoughts of how my days are so busy and how I hardly find the time to do things like writing and spending more time at my business. As I thought about that, my relationship with myself stared at me with accusing eyes saying, ‘so, you put in so much effort to ensure everyone around you are fine yet little effort to consider the things that makes me happy. Why?’ These efforts may be little but are really significant. It may be as little as having ‘ me time’. LOL.  How would a ‘me time’ be realistic when I haven’t delivered on my deliverables? The answer that came to me is in three bullets point:
1 I must come to terms with my current situation. What are my current realities? What can I do to navigate through successfully? (I tell you, finding time to write about this is a therapy! *exhales*)
2 I must seek for help. None of us should be ashamed to seek for help. Help is available if we ask from the right source. I think that self-preservation isn’t doing us much good. This self –preservation is often borne out of fear. One of my lessons from February 2019 so far is that, far has torment and one way to avoid its torment is to work in love. Love doesn’t self-preserve. Seek for help when you need it you can’t do everything by yourself. Even though getting a long term domestic help staff isn’t an option for me, I can still access help by seeking partnerships and delegating. These two may require some degree of vulnerability from me but the rewards are huge.
3 I must write often. Witting is how I exhale, ventilate and hibernate my soul. When I write, I clear my mind. Writing for me is opening up to get help. Every time I share my thoughts I am giving the world an opportunity to share its perspective with me, and this open ups my thinking faculty and enlarges my mind with creative ways to think about achieving my task.
So here’s my conclusion. Taking responsibility is how we grow. To live beyond the limitations of a mental health diagnosis, you must be responsible for the things you have been given. If you are responsible for little, big will come. Another take away is that, your mental health should not be neglected. Rest when you need to rest. To rest effectively you must be willing to ask for help by delegating and seeking profitable partnerships for your tasks. To effectively ask for help, sometimes, you will have to open up about your challenges and that can make you feel vulnerable.

Thanks for stopping by my blog. I celebrate you! May 2019 be a positive year for you.
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.  

Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in the world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
1 John 4: 17-18. King James Version (KJV)
Prayer: Lord I thank you for entrusting me with responsibilities. I am grateful. I ask that you will give me the strength and wisdom required to carry out every task that you have entrusted to me. In Jesus name.