End of year blues?

Monday, December 04, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

 
Hello friends, welcome to December! Hey, cheer up! We made it to the last month in year 2017! Isn’t God awesome? In a few days, 2017 will be history and 2018 will be the present reality. However, it's sad to note that the end of a year can trigger different feelings for different people. The ability to put our thoughts in good perspective is one way to avoid negative feelings of regret, guilt, disappointment, anger, pain, and so on.
When you think about how your life has been so far in the year 2017, how do you feel?  If you are like me, you may be feeling that you could have done better. Yes, I could have done better is the natural feeling I have as the year concludes but I am not going to let my mind dwell on the things I didn't do e.g. writing two books before June and not finding the motivation to go to press, having to disappoint family and friends to hold on to my values, not meeting up with my blogging goals for 2017, allowing myself to be distracted in subtle ways....I could go on but I won't. It's a worthless exercise to keep a record of my wrongs because self-love begins with self-forgiveness.
Focusing on the things I didn't do or I don't have or could not do, will only lead me to a depressive mood. So what can I do to get off the 'end of the year depressive mood?

1) I WILL COUNT MY BLESSINGS AND BE GRATEFUL. Will you? If you are managing a mental health diagnosis and you are in the right frame of mind to read this, the first thing to be grateful for is the gift of a sound mind. 
'All that I am is because of who God is to me."
Without a healthy mind, I would probably be on bed rest in a psychiatry hospital receiving professional attention. So why won't I be grateful and thankful? At the beginning of the year, I posted something on my Instagram timeline: "Take purposeful steps to make this year and crisis-free year for you" This year has been a crisis-free year for me mentally.  I have had to deal with tough, stressful situations that could have knocked me out of my mind, but somehow I am still here in sound mind! I am so, so, soooo grateful to God for that.
 
2)   REFLECT: Take time out of your busy schedule to connect with yourself and ask yourself real and sincere questions, and take the answers to God in prayer. Reflective thinking helps us to put our thoughts in the right perspective. When you have the right perfective, a balanced view of life, with deliberate efforts, it becomes easier to retrace your steps and not repeat the same mistakes next time.
 
3)   SPEAK TO GOD: Time spent in reflective thinking is usually a time of reality check. They can be very humbling and emotional. But talking to God about how you feel can help. Sometimes, words would elude you, but you can sing, cry if you want, just be yourself in God’s presence and unburden your heart to Him. Ask Him for His Grace, for His wisdom; ask him to heal your emotions where you are hurting. God answers prayers.
 
“The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.” – Psalm 145: 18
“You hear prayers; ALL PEOPLE approach you.” – Psalm 65:2 (emphasis mine)
‘All people’ includes you reading this now. Speak to God about your feelings.
PRAYER:
Dear Lord, thank you for EVERYTHING you have done for me in the year 2017. I am grateful. Thank you for the unseen things you did for me, for the gift of a sound mind, for the gift of friends and family, for your love expressed to me in the love that I receive from others. THANK YOU, LORD. I love and appreciate you.
REFERENCE:
All scriptures are taken from the New International Version of the Bible  (NIV)

A FULL LIFE

Saturday, November 25, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-




“Isn’t once bipolar always bipolar?” I was asked. “For me, once bipolar isn’t always bipolar”. I replied. I went on to explain that the fact that I experienced being ‘bipolar’ doesn’t mean that I am 24 hours, 7days, 60 minutes, 60seconds, having a bipolar experience. I am not bipolar. Simply put, Bipolar Disorder is defined as “a mental disorder characterized by episodes of mania and depression”. I am not the illness. I can’t take on the identity of bipolar disorder simply because I was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and living with it
There is a life beyond the life of being diagnosed with bipolar disorder and that’s the life I want. That’s the life I live – A full life. Being diagnosed with bipolar disorder does not prevent me from doing life and it should not prevent anyone. This is why I confidently say, My name is precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.
However, one interesting thing about living a full life as Winnie Zwane puts it, is that “you can’t live a full life on an empty spirit.” Trying to do that is like trying to treat a mentally ill person without prescribed medication or trying to live a full life on an empty stomach. Can that be possible? In my corner of the world, it is commonly said that a hungry man is an angry man and that when hunger beats up an angry man, it is inevitable that he would discover his talent and live a purposeful life. In our Warri Pidgin English way we say, ‘if hunger beat you, you go discover your talent!’

In the same way, that hunger makes a man angry and that anger leads to a search for satisfaction, the emptiness in a man’s spirit would produce a mixture of feelings of which sadness and anger are chiefs. That emptiness is one of the root causes of the despondency that characterises mental illness.

How can you live a full life with an empty spirit? How? Feed your spirit!
Feed your spirit with the right soul food. Don’t feed your spirit with junk. Scrutinise the content you expose yourself to. Do you recognise that the content may be right for everyone but may not be right for you?

I am a die-hard fan of good content! I am deliberate about the content I expose myself to because I recognise that what I believe, I become. What I want is a full life with the abundance of God’s goodness, mercy, grace, and love. A full life that is hitched on my relationship with the Holy Spirit where I am lovingly corrected, guarded, edified and at peace with God, with myself and with humanity.
 A full life is impossible without the impact of the word of God. God is to me, what the sunshine is to a flower. Without the sunshine, a flower can’t blossom. Without God at the core of my existence, there would be no ‘I Dare to Blossom’ for me. Without God’s controlling interest in my life, I can’t blossom. Can you?

If you haven’t given God the permission to fill you with His love, peace and ‘processes’, this is a good time to start. Talk to God. Ask Him to help you to become the best version of yourself. As my mentor would say, “ask God to introduce you to yourself”, to the picture of you that He has in His mind. If you need me to hold you accountable on this journey of letting God fill you so you can live a full life, you can send me an email here: idaretoblossom@gmail.com

You can also find me on
Instagram: @idaretoblossom_org
Twitter: @Idaretoblossom
Facebook page: I Dare To Blossom

Until the next post, I enjoyed sharing this with you!*smiles*
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full Life.

Prayer:
Dear Lord, I recognise that trying to live a full life without your help is like swimming against the tide. It's difficult. Lord, today and always, I give you controlling interest in my life. Be the Lord of my emotions, my thoughts, my life.Take my burdens and give me your rest, in Jesus name, Amen.

Matthew 11: 28 ESV
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

Reference
• My Mentor : Bidemi Mark-Mordi  (www.BidemiMarkMordi. com)
• "you can’t live a full life on an empty spirit.”- First came across this on one of Winnie Zwane’s Instagram (@watergoddess7) posts.
• Warri is a city in Delta State, Nigeria. I grew up there. Their predominant language is Pidgin English. And they are known to have a very good sense of humour while also saying the undiluted truth.



Don’t Feed Your Mind on Junk.

Monday, November 13, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

 
Aside from taking prescribed medication, and following ‘the bipolar rules’, it is my firm belief that the safest way to stay out of depression and maintaining your mental health, is to guard your heart. Please note, I didn’t say the easiest way, I said the safest way, because I recognise that guarding the heart towards positive thoughts can be difficult especially when the circumstances vividly reflect negativity.
Let me give an example. This past week, I posted daily on my Facebook timeline. For some people it’s just okay especially if the updates are value oriented and inspiring in some way – which is what I strive to achieve each time upload an update- yet this Monday morning, I woke up with a ‘feeling’ of, “you are becoming too loud on social media, more like a chatter box, are you sure you are not trying to gain unnecessary attention?” and the conversation continues in my head, “ are you sure that you are not making your life public? Must you post often?”
 That’s how negative self-talk begins. It starts subtly, questions your motive, and makes you self-conscious and then self-doubt and a lack of confidence sets in.

An ability to guard to your heart is an ability to guard your life.
There are so many creative ways to guard your heart, you just have to establish what works for you and have a personal definition of what ‘guard’ means to you. 
For me, to guard my heart means that;

1) I will deliberately look for good in every situation. This speaks to perceptions and perspectives. This was what helped me with my Monday morning feeling. I replaced the negative self-talk with this perspective: You can’t be an inspiration if you are not inspired. Let the Holy Spirit be the influence that inspires you. (That was my #notetoself and my #mondaymotivation)

2) I will not be causal about what I allow my mind to feed on. Just as I am careful not to eat junk food, I am deliberate about the quality of entertainment and conversations I expose my mind to.

3) I will be grateful for the one I have. Because what we have per time is enough for the season that we are in. Here contentment is the watch word. Contentment doesn't mean that you would not strive to be better and become more, it means that while you are striving for the best you acknowledge with humility where you are now while also embracing the new opportunities to become more.

4) I will serve.  Yes, I will serve by voluntarily offering help where it is within my capacity. Serving whole heartedly without eye service leaves me with an indescribable feeling of fulfilment. Knowing that an act of kindness made a positive difference in the life of another is a strong protective thought that keeps my emotions in a safe and healthy place.

5) I will rejoice. I will do as the song writer wrote: I will rejoice and be glad. I will rejoice and be glad. I will lift up my voice to sing praise to the Lord, because this is the day He has made.
Here’s the summary: Guard your heart. Rejoice. See the Good. Serve and be
grateful. Truly, to guard your heart is to guard your life.
 
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life
 
Prayer: Dear Lord, give me the grace to guard my heart with your thoughts. Fill my mind with all of you, let there be no space for ‘me, myself and I thoughts’
Reference:  Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. - Proverbs 4: 23, King James Version.
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Embraced by Grace

Monday, October 30, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

If you judge yourself by how the next person is living out purpose, you can shortchange your purpose and become blind to your calling.

In January 2014, I took time out to pray for God’s plans and purpose for ‘I dare to blossom’ while it was still an idea and in preparation to start blogging in February 2014. And God spoke to me from Isaiah 37. He said, “All the assurance you need, I’m giving to you now because I want you to be firm” (25/1/2014) 7: 30 am
 
And then I went on to document my I believe statement for IDB.
 
1.       I believe that the people God is bringing out of bi-polar via IDB shall take root downward in you God and bear fruits upwards.
2.       I believe that out of I dare to Blossom shall go blessings and Healings.
3.       I believe that I Dare to Blossom shall take root downward in God and bear fruits upward.
4.       I believe that the readers of IDB will escape from the pains and sadness of bi-polar.
 
God gave me a lot of assurances that ‘I dare to blossom’ is His idea. So many deep assurances from His word and from life events… Here are some of them I hold dear: “I will defend IDB to save it, I will defend you to save you, for my own sake and for my glory.” - Isaiah 37: 35

He said to me, “do not be afraid of the word of opposition concerning IDB. Do not fear. Do not be afraid. It is not ‘you’ they oppose, it’s me, the healing and the liberation I’m offering that they oppose. I will fight for IDB, I will defend it because it is my idea”. (25/1/2014) 8: 50 am.

I am not sharing this to make you feel that I am very spiritual, no.  That’s not my motive. I am sharing this to make you recognize that God is always specific and detailed when He gives you an assignment. Even though the details will be revealed in batches, He would give you enough to ensure that you are clear, very clear on what He wants you to do. My dear friend, when God is speaking to you whether directly or indirectly, please, please, please take notes.

By reading through my diary for the year 2014, seeing all the notes I jotted while God spoke to me about IDB, I realised that I had strayed from God’s perfect will for IDB. I strayed. I followed my heart. I followed what was popular and trendy. These were not necessarily bad things, but they were not meant for me, not assigned to me, not done in accordance with God’s perfect will for me and for IDB.

“If you judge yourself by what others are doing, you will shortchange yourself.”
A few days ago, I was staring at 1saiah 55:8 again.
 
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.”

As I meditated on these words, I began to pray. I said, Lord, let it be your way and not my way. Your will and not my will. I said, Lord, in any way I have strayed from your way and will, please restore me in Jesus name. Help me to find my way back to you, dear Lord.

God is my treasure. He is my priority. There is nothing I have that I didn’t receive from Him. There is nothing I have that can replace Him. He is my EVERYTHING. He is everything to me. I really cannot function without HIM. If you like, call me a fanatic, if you like call me overzealous or whatever, it still wouldn’t change the fact that without Jesus, I can’t function.

So, I repent. I am going back to blogging the way God intended for me from the beginning. Not because I don’t care about mental health advocacy or that mental health awareness isn’t relevant, but because for me, the assignment is to share God’s thoughts and ways of managing mental health issues, to share God’s powerful word that “is quick and powerful and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12
 
LET IT BE GOD’S THOUGHT AND IN GOD’S WAY!
 
I repent because one of the primary aims of IDB is to help people go through the recovery phase of a mental health diagnosis, especially bipolar disorder. To share my survival story and strengthened their faith while ensuring that their hope is anchored on God.

And so I repent because, in the end, it isn’t what I did for humanity but what I did according to God’s purpose for my life for humanity.

Today, I repent and I’m saying the same prayer I said on January 27th, 2014:
 
“Lord, it is your thoughts that must be expressed in the content of IDB. It is your ways that must be followed. Because your thoughts are higher and your ways are higher.  Because your word that goeth forth out of your mouth shall not return to you void but shall accomplish that which You please, and it shall prosper in the thing where you sent it…Isaiah 55:8-13, in Jesus name I pray, Amen.

True peace comes from knowing and doing God’s will.
 
In what aspects of your life are you deviating from your God given assignments? None of us should be afraid to ask Him for His mercy and to be embraced by His grace again. He is the God of another chance.
 

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a Full Life.
 

Reference:

All Scriptures are taken from the King James Version Bible
Quotes in red are my original thoughts gathered from life lessons.
 
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What reputation has the clay in the hands of the potter?

Are You Mentally Aware?

Friday, October 20, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

Mental illnesses are real. Not because I say so or because of all the advocacy going on, but because more and more people are neglecting their mental health. A larger group is oblivious to mental health issues and how raising positive mental health awareness can end the stigma around mental health matters.

Being mentally aware doesn't make you a lesser human. It just means that you are equipped with the right knowledge to help yourself and the people in your space.

I believe that we all are capable of creating an enabling environment for Mentally ill persons to strive. But the gap still remains. This gap reflects in our uncertainties where caring for mentally ill persons are concerned. I would be the first to admit that caring for or living with a mentally ill person who is unstable and still in recovery is an uphill task. Yet, are we to turn our backs and hide under the guise of ignorant pretence? What if you do not have the gift of compassion for them? I have come to realise that the first thing that is needed is compassion. After that, money comes into the picture.


 


Without sufficient funding, mentally ill persons would not have access to professional medical attention and psychotherapy.


And this is the part I get weary in mental health advocacy.  So much talk, little action. Let's step up the game! Let match our words with the corresponding action. What can you do to ensure that mentally derailed people are taken off the streets of Lagos State, of your state, of Nigeria?

How can the attention of government be drawn to the present realities facing the mental health of the nation? How can employers ensure that the mental health of their employees are not neglected? "Neglect equals decline', says Dondi Scumaci. If we neglect the mental health of our employees and become nonchalant, in the end, whether we let go of them or not, it will affect the economy of our nation in the long run. How? Often, these category of employees who seems to be managing their mental health, are usually highly talented and multi-gifted. What's your take?

I will keep advocating for a conducive environment whether at home or at work, where mentally ill persons can blossom and become the best version of themselves. As God helps me, I will match my talk with my act.

 

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full Life.
 
 


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If We Love…

Wednesday, August 30, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

Often, in the process of communicating, we get misunderstood or we misunderstand the motive behind a conversation. As important as the art of communication is, there will be no meaningful communication if we do not invest resources like time, money, patience, love, to say a few to ensure that our communication with the world around us is smooth.
Beyond the internet world (www.) there is first of all a physical world, a real world, one where people are just themselves, no pressure to present them in the light of what the internet world want to see. In this real world, love is what really matters. The question on my mind this morning as I write this: Is love still our motive? Or have we become so focused on our needs and wants and neglected the very core of our existence – love?
I love the way one of my Facebook friends said it on her timeline: “100, 200, even 1000 likes on this thing called social media mean nothing if we don’t live and love ourselves in the real world.“
Many people spend time on line sharing. But sharing without the intent to add value and to promote peace and love is worrisome! In my mind, sharing is living. Sharing is caring. Sharing is life and ultimately, to share is to love. But then, it would be impossible to truly love if our capacity to receive and interpret love is impaired.  It will be impossible for us to reach out to others who may be going through a phase if we are unable to gather our thoughts to gain the right perspective.
Again, why are we so busy with life- making money, making an effort to get married, making time count, making babies, making a statement, making an impression, making a show of every occasion, making everything look perfect yet our relationship with the giver of life, the author of love is just there! It would be difficult to live a fulfilled life if we do not do the things that make God smile. This week, I posted something on my Facebook timeline: “Beyond the happy pictures on social media, there are a lot of troubled hearts and teary eyes. Reach out to them with love.”
If we love, we will pay more attention to the rules of etiquette that govern the human relationships and communications.
If we love we would ask questions to gain clarity and not assume.
If we love we will be mindful of what God thinks about us and make Him first in all our conversations.
If we love we will be patient with one another.
If we love, an absence or presence of shares, likes, love, haha, wow, angry, dislike, and so on, would not influence our responses or affect our moods.
If we love, we will create time for one another in real life. We will call more often to check on ourselves!
If we love…
If we love…

If we love…
Do we truly love?

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full Life

Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, the cry of my heart is to love like you, to see what you see in everyone and to treat the way you would if you were in the physical form. Lord, help me to live out the love you described in 1 Corinthians 13. Thank you in advance for answered prayers.
Reference:
Quote on Love by Shronda Johnson Peterson

“100, 200, even 1000 likes on this thing called social media mean nothing if we don’t live and love ourselves in the real world.“  

Written - 3:58am|August 05, 2017

I AM NOT MY HIPS!

Wednesday, July 26, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

Back then in the university, I earned the nick names, “miss hips” and "mi round" because of my well-rounded thighs and backside. While most of my friends felt it was a plus, I felt it was a minus and embarked on a self-imposed dieting plan. So I had fluctuating weight sizes (from size 12 and sometimes up to size 16!).
 
I can recall how I felt when someone who hadn't seen me in a while commented on my weight loss. “What happened to you? Are you ill?” she asked. Another said, “You are no longer “miss hips!” At the time, I felt quiet confused about what I wanted; I wasn’t quite sure of my values. Later, I had to decide what I really wanted and whether I would allow the presence or absence of hips to define me. These were some of the questions I’ve had to answer in the process of understanding and loving me.
 
Why this analogy? Recently, I started to feel 'fat' and act 'fat'. I would look into the mirror and say to myself, “Precious, you are getting fat ooo. You are looking ugly, are you sure hubby is comfortable with this your new weight?”  
If negative self-talk is not nipped from the root, it will come back reinforced.
 
 How did I nip those negative self-talks in the bud?

1) I reminded myself of psalm 139: 14 -15. I said it over and over again, not as a cliché, but with understanding and conviction.
 

"I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well." ~ Psalm 139: 14
 
2) I reminded myself that being fat or slim does not define who I am. I am a child of God, one of His princesses, His beloved and He created me this way for a reason, a reason I may never fathom or fully comprehend. 

3) I am not my Hips. I am not my looks. Looks are impressive and important too, but I believe that the quality of my heart should matter more.

4) Hubby never complained about me being fat, so why was I concerned? Not loving oneself often boils down to insecurities and fears. So I had to identify and deal with my fears (may be in another post, I will talk about that) 

5) I choose me. Yes, irrespective of how I look, feel or act, I still choose to love me. I am committed to loving myself 100%. It does matter whether I am in my primitive or refined stage, I choose me!

What about you? What negative self-talk are you paying attention to? What you give your attention to determines how you feel and act. Please take your power back. Fill your mind with positive self-talk. Choose you. Love you unconditionally because...

If you don't love you, it will be difficult to love others or make meaningful impact in their lives.

 
 
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.
 
Prayer:  
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for how you made me. You made me in a fearful and wonderful way for a specific purpose that brings you glory. Help me to always remember this. Help me to represent you well in everything – my appearance, my disposition and in the quality of my thoughts. Thank you dear Lord.
 
Reference:
Psalm 139: 14 -15

 

7 WAYS TO EASE THE PAIN OF AN EMOTIONAL HURT

Wednesday, June 21, 2017 0 Comments A+ a-

"The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.”
Psalm 9:9
How is it that the people who are closest to us are the ones who make us happy and at the same time make us sad? The answer is simple: we give them the power to influence our thoughts, feelings and actions. What are you enabling by your silence? How are you empowering toxic relationships to hurt you and reduce your mental and emotional strength thereby cutting down the quality of your life?
In the first week of June, 2017, following a series of predictable events that I didn’t prepare for, I found myself in an emotional mess and made a wise decision to get off social media for a while (3 days, actually. Lol). I realised that writing has a calming effect on me and helps me to put my thoughts in clear perspective. So besides the fact that my phone battery lasted longer and I was free from the endless notifications ― that accompany using a smart phone, I still had to move from the hurt to living my life according to God’s pattern for me.
 
There is no guarantee that we will not be hurt by the people we expect to know better, or that we will not feel the pain, loss or the aftermaths of their actions towards us. But like I wrote in my last post, Still, I will Sing, “I am determined to be among the people who will ‘happen’ to life. I will live my life intentionally to serve God's interest. Of course, there will be consequences, yet I will maintain a positive disposition and not allow life happen to me.”
How do I intend to achieve this declaration?
 
By Letting Go
To let go of something valuable hurts. It hurts more when you have been so attached! Sometimes, we give pain, anger, bitterness, malice, etc., an overrated place in our lives by holding on to them. Nyengi Koin’s novel tittle says, “Time changes yesterday,” yet, I strongly believe that beyond time, our decision to MOVE ON quickly from hurtful experiences is what changes our state of mind towards wholeness. This brings me to the next point.
 
Move on! Move on!! Move on!!!
Take baby steps if you want, but make sure you are moving on. If you stay on one spot recounting the hurtful words and replaying the scenes in your head, you will sink deeper into a depressed state. Whenever you feel like nursing the pain, you can actually acknowledge it by coming to terms with what had happened and deciding to move on. Life and everyone around you is not going to wait because you are hurting. This is why in the end; you lose more in being depressed and unmotivated than the person or situation that may have triggered the depression in the first place. That person or situation may even be oblivious of the impact of their words or actions on you.
 
Managing Words verses Feelings
I believe that we are responsible for what we say, not how what we say make others feel. For instance, I could say “it’s a beautiful day” and someone who already feels sad about the day might interpret that as something else. Words are said based on an individual’s observation, understanding, reasoning, and exposure. Our words reveal a lot about us.
To truly live a joyful and happy life, we must be conscious of the way we interpret the words we are exposed to. Hurtful words will naturally achieve their goal of hurting the recipient. We can’t stop people from saying what they say, but we can decide to put a filter on the words by taking what is relevant and leaving the ‘trash’ behind. Don’t carry on hurtful words, it’s a negative cycle.
 
Be Thankful
God’s word says in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 KJV, “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” In EVERYTHING, not in some things. Thanksgiving helps us to take our focus from how terrible and hurting the situation is to how much God has done for us (which we may be unaware of), to ensure that the situation does not deteriorate. It helps us to remember that ALL things, not some things, are working together for our good. Thanksgiving helps us to remember that if it had not been for the LORD who was on our side, things could have been worse than they are right now. Be thankful!
 
Pray for those who Hurt You
If you are a believer, you may be conversant with the story of Job in the Bible (See Job 42:10-11). Verse 10 says:
“And the LORD turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the LORD gave job twice as much as he had before.”
Prayer helps us to communicate how we feel to God. It helps us to ask for His grace and Mercy for every aspect of our lives. Prayer and worship go hand in hand. When I feel very hurt and find it difficult to pray, I just switch to worshipping God, and acknowledging His supremacy in my life. 
 
Forgive Sincerely
One truth I am taking away from chapter 7 of Dondi Scumaci’s book, READY, SET… GROW! is that forgiving is first a decision and then a process. This explains why even though we have sincerely forgiven a person, sometimes we still feel the pains of their action! Dondi warns that if we don’t manage the hurts and disappointments in our lives, we risk becoming the toxic people others are trying to pull from their lives.
So please, follow the forgiveness process to the end and do forgive. Life is too important and beautiful for anyone to live in the trap of unforgiveness. Make the decision to forgive, follow the forgiveness process and let go of the pain and hurt. Move on and keep going.
 
Be Happy
Happiness starts from a cheerful heart. Choose happiness every day. Every day comes with its own demands. Tell yourself that irrespective of what happens or not, you are going to make it through the day and your happiness and joy will be intact. That said, you have to work on it. Work on it by not dwelling on negative words and experiences.
 
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.
Prayer
Dear Lord, please strengthen my heart and give me your grace, an abundant of it, to forgive, let go and move on regardless of how painful the experience may be. In Jesus Name, Amen. Thank You.
 
References
All scriptures are taken from the King James Version of the Bible.
Job 42:10-11
1 Thessalonians 5:18
Time Changes Yesterday – A novel by Nyengi Koin
READY, SET… GROW! by Dondi Scumaci