YOU ARE NOT DISADVANTAGED!

Friday, February 26, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

In Nigeria where am from, a diagnostic report confirming that an individual is suffering from any the form of mental health disorder, can be likened to a death sentence! This was my situation in 2003 when I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after a series of disturbing occurrences. The reaction, responses and fear of every one then was, ‘will she amount to any good, after this?’, ‘How would life turn out for this young lady?’ Apart from my parents and few of my friends, many focused on the disadvantages of the situation I had found myself.

“But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty…” I Corinthians 1:27, KJV.

I remember vividly, the day we were at a rehabilitation class in the Psychiatry Hospital where I was admitted. In that class, we were encouraged to learn a new skill like painting, weaving, singing, writing, or any other skill that will empower us to be better individuals and take our minds away from negative impact of a nervous breakdown.  I am sure I attended close to four of such classes before I was discharged from the hospital. 

On one of my visits, I expressed my concerns with the young man who was teaching us how to paint. I asked him, ‘will I be able to integrate back into the society?’ and ‘from where do I start from, how I would start life again?’ He glanced at me briefly, smiled and shared the story of someone he knew who had been through a mental health disorder; how she was hospitalized, discharged and is living a meaningful life. Upon hearing this, hope sprang up in my heart.

If you have been diagnosed or you are a care giver to someone who has been diagnosed with any form of mental health disorder, you must recognise that bipolar or whatever the mental health disorder, do not define who that individual is. You are not the illness! Yes you are not bipolar, even though you have to deal with its symptoms daily! 

I hear that persons diagnosed with Autism are usually creative in many ways. The extremities around Bipolar can be used in a good way to ensure that output is creative, detailed and delivered with a 100% commitment!  I am aware that Schizophrenia can make sufferers to become lone rangers, with little or no interest in what is going on around them but have you paused and asked yourself, ‘what is going on in their heads?’ I assure you that they do not see life the way you see life and that they have an unusual ability to think outside the box. This could be a good thing or a bad thing depending on how it is harnessed.

What am I trying to say? Recently, I listened to Original Intent, Equal opportunities, a podcast by Bidemi Mark-Mordi and I could not stop thinking about the examples of the two persons whose stories where studied. I saw pictures of the lady, Olajumoke Orisaguna and I said to myself, her strength and advantage was in her body structure, (slim features) her confidence( to walk through a live set in a determination to sell her wares) and her consistence in doing what she knew to do best to survive in that phase of her life. So you see, Bidemi Mark-mordi is right when she says, we are not disadvantaged!

Each of us has something on the inside that can make our part of the earth a better place to live in! A better place to be! Have you discovered your advantage? Are you focused on your disadvantage rather than on your advantage? Stop blaming others for what is not working, look within and proffer a solution. Be a positive change agent. Don’t go through life with an ‘I can’t do it’ mentality.

My name is precious, I was bipolar and I live a full life


Prayer:
Lord, help me to always remember that you use the foolish things, the weak things and the base things and things that are despised to confound the wise. Lord, I submit my experiences to you; use them for your glory in Jesus name, Amen.

Reference:
I Corinthians 1:25-31- King James Version
Bidemi Mark Mordi: www.bidemi markmordi.com
Schizophrenia : “Schizophrenia symptoms include distorted thoughts, hallucinations, and feelings of fright and paranoia. Psychiatrists evaluate symptoms, tests, and medical history, and prescribe medications and psychotherapy for treatment.”  http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/mental-health-types-illness


Blogger’s Note: Please understand that being diagnosed with any of the mental illnesses out lined above, does not mean you are disadvantaged. There is something in your DNA that will benefit the world. See WebMd's example of Vincent van: Gogh:http://www.webmd.com/schizophrenia/ss/slideshow-schizophrenia-famous-names

Beyond February 14th...

Sunday, February 14, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

If you are bipolar and you are single, it's so easy to slip into self evaluation and self pity on a day like this, especially if you do not have a reliable relationship. This was my situation a few years ago, and all I wanted then was marriage! My mindset then was, 'when I get married, every day will be valentine, I will always be happy and I will hardly feel sad again!' 

My psychologists was the first person to wake me up from my 'wonderland'. He made me realise that if I was not happy and contented as a single girl, marriage will not change a thing! In his opinion, you cannot be happy everyday, even in marriage.

I have been married for some years to my precious Ruby, I have no doubt that he is God's best for me and that he loves me dearly but to be sincere, there are days I just feel low, discouraged and melancholic. Most of the time, these feelings have nothing to do with what he did or what he did not do. 

That's myself and my daughter saying, 'Happy Valentine Day'
To be honest, I know that my sanity, strength and value sterns from my relationship with Jesus. He is my friend and lover, and I can't imagine what my life would have been without Him. Few months away from our wedding, I had a little misunderstanding with one of my sisters who incidentally, is also my friend. I respected her so much to the point that if she had asked me to quit the relationship with my husband-to-be then, I could have considered it. 

I was psychologically attached to her. I felt like she was the only one who understood me considering that she knew about my mental health status, yet believed in me. She never gave me a reason to doubt my ability to deliver or live a productive life. Then, for some reasons I can't recall, we stopped talking to each other. When I was sufficiently tired of the situation, I woke up early one morning to commune with God about the situation. After thanking Him and worshiping, I asked, 'Lord, why is my relationship with (I mentioned her name) like this now? Why does it seems as though there is no love and understanding anymore? What do you want me to do? What should I do?'

And this was what was impressed on my heart: Your relationship with this lady is like this so that you will not expect her or anybody to be what only God can be to you. Don't expect the love, peace, joy, security, attention, provision... that only God can give you from anyone, not even from your husband...

So I walked up the aisle with my hearthrob and those words have not eluded me since then. I know where my joy comes from, It comes from the Lord! I know where what I need is. If I will remain committed to this relationship with Jesus, my other relationships will continue to be meaningful! I have never celebrated Valentine at the level it is being advertised on social media and the press,
 but I know who loves me! I know that He is always in love with me. He is an ever present help in time of need, this is easy for Him because, He never sleeps or slumber! I can't get over the fact that I am not virtuous enough, yet he loves me, I am not careful enough yet His care overwhelms me! Here's Happy Valentine to you Lord, I love you! Thank you for loving me just as I am and for allowing your grace to find me each time I fall...

Let Jesus be your Valentine. Beyond the celebration of February 14th, give Jesus an opportunity to express His love for you by considering Him. Receive Him into your heart and confess Him as your Lord.  Create room in your heart for Him. Just bask in His love! Read John 3:14-16, John 1

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life

Prayer: Lord, Jesus, I thank you for your love. For all you did on the cross of Calvary. Jesus, come into my heart, be Lord over my life, I give you controlling interest in my life. Help me with my emotions, help me to channel them right in Jesus name.

Note: Please if you have just said that prayer, please send me an email at idaretoblossom@gmail.com, I will love to hear from you.





KEEP HOPE ALIVE!

Friday, February 05, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-


How has your week been? How are you responding to the global awareness of the Zika Virus? It seems as though every corner you turn to, there is a dose of negative information waiting! Well, I do hope you are guarding your heart too.
Can you remember the lyrics of My Favourite Things, in the classic movie, Sound Of Music? I can’t seem to get it off my mind today, it’s being ringing in my head! *Lol! Here is the part I like most;
“…when the dog bites
When the bee stings
When I’m feeling sad
I simply remember my favourite things
And then I don’t feel…so bad”
As we go through this new month and the rest of the year, do not lose sight of your “favourite things”. Do not lose sight of what is important. Do not let the happening around the world scare you into no performance. No matter what happens, always remember, that life goes on! 

Yes, life goes on! Zika virus or no Zika virus, Ebola virus or not, Lassa fever or no Lassa fever; whether there be economic meltdown or not, life will go on! Don’t be swept away by the floods of disturbing news being broadcasted daily. Securely guard the gates of your heart. Don’t apply your ears to words you do not want your heart to ponder on. Live on the full assurance of scriptures like,
“…When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the LORD shall lift up a standard against him.” Isaiah 59: 19
“Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea…” Psalm 46: 2
Because thou hast made the LORD, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation; there shall no evil befall the, neither shall any plague come night thy dwelling.” Psalm 91: 9-10
“Behold, he that keepth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. The LORD is thy Keeper: the LORD is thy shade upon thy right hand. The Sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night. The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul.” Psalm 121: 4-7
“For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but my kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed, saith the LORD that hath mercy on thee.” Isaiah 54: 10
If you often experience rapid recycling in your moods, you should be more conscious of the words you expose yourself to, your thought processes and your responses. Let your guard be Philippians 4: 8. If you do not feel better, please do not hesitate to pay a visit to your psychiatrists or physiologists for a review.
So, please do not give up now. I once read that success is failure turned inside out. If we do not quit like Isaac in Genesis 26, who was faced with an unfavourable situation, then we will surely succeed. We will not just survive, we will thrive; we will flourish and blossom in our designated assignments, with God as our Help. Keep Hope Alive!
My name is precious, I was Bipolar, and I live a full life.
Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I thank you because your grace is sufficient for me. Your love makes me whole; your thoughts of me are beautiful. With you, I will run and not faint, I will work in faith and not in fear, in Jesus name. Amen.
Reference
All scriptures are taken from the King James Version of the Holy Bible.
Lyrics of Sound of Music: songlyrics.com