Relationships: What Values are you presenting?

Monday, January 25, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

It’s been a very stretching week for me, going by the series of events I have had to deal with. At some point I was disheartened. Thanks to everyone who posted a word of encouragement on my Facebook page. Notwithstanding, I am fully persuaded that nothing will make me live below God’s standard for my life. By God’s grace, my vision, dreams/goals for this year will not be short changed by grief, fear, or any unpleasant occurrence. This means that I will constantly and consciously seek to apply God’s perspective on any issue of concern, and also fulfil any medical obligation that comes with the situation.
Enough of me, how has your week been? You can leave me a message at if you feel like sharing with me.
Few years ago, when I completed my secondary school education or high school as it is referred to in the western world, I met a young lady about the same age as myself. Her name was Ada. We soon became good friends, especially when we discovered that we had a common goal: to pass our Joint Admission Matriculation Examinations (JAMB), a requirement to gain admission into an higher institution in my country. Where am I heading with this story? Ada was the first person to call me Precious.
She said to me, “your name, Avwunuma, is too hard for me to pronounce, don’t you have an English name?” “No, my parents didn’t give me any”, I replied her. She stared at me briefly and with a simile on her face she said, “From today, I will call you Precious. You are precious. You are precious to me.”
This morning, I could not stop thinking about this conversation that happened in year 1999. Why did Ada name me ‘Precious’? In my part of the world, names are taken very seriously; they are usually given thoughtfully, with a clear and deliberate meaning in most cases. Without trying to sound immodest, I think Ada gave me that name because of the value she derived from my relationship with her at that stage of our lives. What value are you offering in your relationships? I once heard someone say to a single lady who was worried about not attracting the quality of man she desired, he said, “Put the right value on yourself and you will attract the right man.”
Whether you are suffering from any mental health disorder or you are looking for the right spouse or you are hoping to upgrade your standard of living, you need the right relationships. To achieve this you have to start with yourself. What are your values? What do you stand for or against? 

 Your values work like a magnet; it will naturally attract its kind.
Take time out this week to evaluate your values and relationships. Do you have relationships that are tearing you apart? Do your friends understand what it is that you are dealing with in terms of your mental health? Can you conveniently share your dreams or aspirations with them without the fear of pessimism from them? Do they help to monitor your recovery process? Do they encourage you to heed to your doctor’s prescription? Can they go the extra mile to help you get your drugs when you can’t or do they drive you to the hospital when you are not in the right frame of mind? Please note that I am not talking about a marriage relationship here. If you have a spouse who does not understand your ordeal or does not seem to be on the same page with you on your health issues, my advice to you is to seek professional help. See a trained counsellor or marriage coach. If you are a believer, look up scriptures on marriage and gain godly wisdom to save your marriage.
After all is being said and done, check your value level. Good relationships strive on love, understanding, commitment, loyalty…. It should entail giving the right value and receiving quality value in return.

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life. 

Heavenly Father, I derive my value from my relationship with you. Help me to remain relevant to you and ensure that I cultivate the right relationships in Jesus name, Amen.
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Sunday, January 17, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

Happy New Year! I'm so glad we made it alive, hale and healthy, into the New Year.

In the best of my imaginations, I can see so many great things happening this year despite the hostile and disheartening reports of the economic atmosphere in most nations of the world today.   

What can you see? How and what you see is a direct function of the state of your mind. Even when I left the hospital after my first relapse, and I found out that I had to learn how to do everything again, because I experienced a temporary memory lost, I was still conscious of the best that could happen to me. In 2016, you need to be conscious of good. Be conscious of those things you do or can do to add value to other people. 

You need to stop living for yourself, consumed by your own welfare! There is a higher way to live. This way, depression will see less of you and when manic contemplates visiting, she will not find you because you will be so busy doing good, making a positive difference and transforming lives positively by your innate gifting channeled through your dreams and goals.

This is one year, where you can't afford to live without purpose or direction. This implies that you must discover why you were sent to earth and what your specific assignment is. When you discover the reason why you came, you will see differently. You will, as Bidemi Mark Mordi says,
"be ready to interpret the events and circumstances of your life within the framework of God’s purpose for your life.”
Indeed, when you discover the reason why you came, you will to see differently. You will guard your vision jealousy and ensure that it does not become blurred by grief, pain or any unpleasant occurrence. In Psalms 6:7, David declares,

"My vision is blurred by grief;  my eyes are worn out because of all my enemies."
Perhaps, you need to make a commitment with yourself today that no matter what happens you will see beyond your circumstances and you will live beyond your limitations. Don’t let sorrow, grief or disappoints (whether by self or from others) stop you. Focus on your purpose and be determined to recover quickly from setbacks. 

Of course, by now am sure you can identify your enemies, if attaining mental balance is one of your goals in 2016. Your mental health enemies include: lack of sufficient sleep, indiscipline in taking your medication as prescribed by your doctor, stress, fear, anxiety, being pessimistic, self-pity, a negative lifestyle, etc… 
What plan do you have in place to manage your mental health enemies this year? 
If you do not manage them effectively, they can wear you out! David said, " eyes are worn out because of all my enemies."

Don’t be consumed by what worked or did not work in 2015. Lift up your eyes, see beyond where you are now, and think positively about what you can do with what you have. Yes, you have something to give back to our world, and the world is waiting on you! Nate Agapi, a successful bipolar warrior says it like this:
”You have value. Even if you hurt; even if you feel weak; even if you rely on someone else for now. You have value...”  
Did you hear Nate say, ‘…even if you rely on someone else for now…? This speaks to your acquaintances, friends and family. They all form your support team. You need the right people, people of like minds, with the right values. You can’t continue to do the same thing and expect a different result. You cannot walk with wise people and not be wise, you can’t associate with persons who are determined to make the best out of 2016 and not end the year with better results. Remember Proverbs 13: 20 
“Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble”
As we advance into the year, be calm; be peaceful. Don’t subject yourself to any pressure to be 'something' if you feel you are not. That negative feeling is not a true representation of who you are. What do I mean? Discover who you are! Don’t live your life by other people’s standard. Discover God’s standard for your life and follow it. I wish you a great year ahead.  

My name is Precious, I was bipolar and I live a full life

Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of life and for sound mind and for bringing me into the New Year. I ask that you help me to make it my best year ever, and at the end of the year, I will be careful to thank you again in Jesus name, Amen.

Twitter: Nate Agapi @NateAgap (A #bipolar warrior. I wage war with #depression and #mania every day. I tweet about the war.)
Bidemi Mark Mordi: A Speaker, Writer, Publisher, Author, Entrepreneur, Mentor and Life Coach with over 15 years’ practical experience. Helping people fulfill their purpose and potential is her dream and life’s work.
Psalms 6:7, Proverbs 13: 20- New Living Translation (NLT)
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