Fix your heart on the LORD!

Wednesday, February 25, 2015 0 Comments A+ a-

Make a Choice to be Happy!
Depression is real, it destroys! I am sure this is no longer news considering the frequency of death lead by suicide in recent times. I read somewhere recently, that, ‘Suicide is the worst form of self critic’…. What baffles us when we hear about a death as a result of suicide is the underlying fact that the individual involved must have suffered from some form of depression!

When the heart pants for hope…. When the mind loses peace… when everything in the physical do not resonates with the perceived plan… when expectations are high and morale is low… when life begins to look like an endless race in a vicious circle… then depression sets in! Depression in my opinion is a state of mind where hopelessness reigns!

Amazingly, as successful and praiseful as King David in the bible, he still suffered depression. What of Elijah? King Jeroboam? King Hezekiah? Mama Sarah in her quest for Isaac and in presenting her hubby with Hagar, (I believe she had to deal with issues in her marriage and home that could have made her depressed at some point, till Genesis 20 when she found herself alone in a strange land married to an Egyptian king after her hubby nicely asked her to say, “I am your brother”, to save his life because she was a well ‘endowed’ woman!), to mention a few.

These were individuals who lived in a particular era! Their issues when viewed now may not seem so depressing compared to what we seem to see and hear these days. At least their own insurgencies didn’t invest in bombs and guns, they invested in swords and shields and sometimes wrote a letter or informed their opponents that they were going into war! At least they didn’t have to deal with the bills the same way we do these days … Utility for gas, home, school fees, medical bills, the necessities of life…  In our mind’s eyes they didn’t have to deal with contemporary issues like, ebola, HIV, Promiscuity in a reckless order, broken homes that have lead to broken society…insecurity…
Notwithstanding, the issues they dealt with was overwhelming for them.
 What causes depression is not the situation or circumstances; it is the state of mind at the particular time when a misnomer occurs!
This is why Paul advised in Philippians 4:4-8 has to be considered seriously. Verse 6 and 7 put a lot in perspective for me when I find myself depressed.

“Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.And the peace of God which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Take all your REQUESTS to the Lord! Please ALL! Don’t leave some behind for worry to feed on! In everything, as in, everything- the good, the bad, the ugly, the unspeakable, the ‘ununderstandable’ (please pardon my use of this word)…. IN EVERYTHING, let prayer and supplication be the vehicle and thanksgiving your fuel that conveys your REQUEST to God.

Paul went on to give an insight on how to ensure our hearts and minds are guarded by God’s peace in Verse 8.

I observed that Paul was a man who deliberately trusted in the Lord, he disregarded his circumstances which were often times far from pleasant! See what was Paul’s Joy and crown… Phil. 4:1. Do you see what he loved dearly? Now, see what depressed him in Romans 9:2-3, he had great heaviness and continual sorrow for his kinsmen!

In Philippians 4: 12-14 we see a model of a man who trusted God and rested the way God rested after creation irrespective of the level He was, having seen everything he created as good! Hebrew 4:11

Unlike Paul who rested the way God rest ( Phil. 4:12-14), many of us find it very difficult to rest in God’s love, to accept as Bro Ike says, ‘when God speaks, it is Law’ For if we accept that when God speaks it is Law, then we will accept His promise to us contained in his word and we would be like Abraham in Roman 4:17-21, who staggered not at the promise of God, …was strong giving glory to God, knowing that God is able to do what he has promised!

My friend, what causes depression for you? Is it your current account balance? Is it the wait or search for the right spouse? Is it the seemingly long wait for the fruit of the womb? Is it the depth of disappoint you feel over what may have happened or may not have happened? Or are you like me, afraid of transitions? 

The first step out of moments of depression and a life of depression is, MAKE A CHOICE TO BE HAPPY.  “Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; …Yet I will rejoice in the LORD ,…” Habakkuk 3:17-19

My Name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a Full Life.

Prayer:
Lord, please bind up my broken heart; give me your beauty for my ashes, your oil of joy for my mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness, in Jesus name, Amen. Isaiah 61:3

Reference:
All Scriptures are taken from the Old King James Version.

Bro Ikechukwu Onunkwo- Discipleship Class

Happy Birthday Mother!

Wednesday, February 18, 2015 0 Comments A+ a-

Happy Birthday Mum, We Love you now and always!
Today, February 18 my mum is a year older! I am so excited and my heart explodes with gratitude to God for how He has Keep her all these years! Indeed mum, God is good! He is ever mindful of you! Happy Birthday!

As I write this my mind can’t stop going back to memory lane, but where do I start from?

Mother is intentional about her children. By this I mean she deliberately ensures she updates her data on every child regularly and timely, so even if I do not tell her what’s up with me, she knows.  I used to wonder how and why she has to know until I got married and became a mother also.

With my mother, the saying that, ‘the work of motherhood is never finished’ comes real. Mother not only keeps check on her children, she ensures that the data on our friends and loved ones are up to date! She knows all our friends by name, and recalls most of our experiences as children. When I informed her about my desire to start blogging she was trilled, she not only previewed the first articles, and ensured I started, she encouraged me by saying, “I know you can write, as a child, you always loved to write” what form of encouragement could I have asked from the Lord than this?

I recall clearly how mother thought me contentment. Each time she handed me a new dress or gift bought for me, my first action as a child was to tear it open and start using it immediately, if it was a dress, I would quickly take off the one on me, and early wear the new one. Then I will run to her to show her, expecting her to say, ‘It looks beautiful on you’, or some other endearing remark. But No! Mother won’t do that. She will howl at me and say, ‘what happen to the one you were wearing?’, ‘can’t you be patient and wear this another time?’ ‘Can’t you?’ Then will add her classic remark that has helped me over the years. ‘Why are you running after new things?’

When I fell really sick and was diagnosed with bipolar, I remember how she and my dad responded. Different responses both from the love angle! Dad pampered and pampered…mother simply showed me tough love,

she made me realize that I needed to get better and be discharged from the hospital to live my life as God has ordained  it, I needed to make a decision to be well.

In fact she would ask me, ‘why don’t you want to get well quick?’ The last time she visited me in the hospital her heart was torn, with tears in her eyes, she explained to me how much she had prayed, how much sacrifice she had to make to see me considering her circumstances then.

With a teary voice she asked me, ‘why don’t you want to get better?’ ‘Do you like to stay here?’ As the nurses reassured her that my health was improving, then and there I made up my mind to be better, to adjust my mind set, and focus on getting better!

My motivation then was, I didn't want to see mum sad again or cry because of me. Somehow, despite my unconscious state of mind, I still knew she was my mum and I respected her role in my life, I wanted her to be happy with me!

Please join me today to celebrate this beautiful woman, who is a faithful wife, sister, Friend. She is a mother to seven children, grandma to four adorable children and still, this my mum is a beautiful young lady! I don’t know how she does it, but I know God took His time when He created you mum!

Happy Birthday, Mum!  May your new age bring you closer into the will of God for your life. May your labour of love and prayers over your children yield timely and enviable results. May You be favoured by God and man, May the earth beneath you yield favourable harvest for you and your household. May the Lord Keep you and Babo as the apple of His Eyes!  

We love You and are thankful to God for giving you to us because you are the best and only mother for us, only you can play the role of mother to us and still keep your mind despite our particular circumstances!

Thank you for teaching me responsibility, Thank you for teaching me life, Thank you for showing me God at a very tender age, for making me realise that without God my life would be empty! Mother, thank you for your prayers, because of them I can now make bold to say;

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full Life….

Reference
Psalms 103: 1-5, Psalms 100.


Be Sincere With Yourself! Part B

Sunday, February 08, 2015 1 Comments A+ a-


Many times, when I read the virtuous woman’s story in Proverbs 31:10-31, I look inward to my life and the things I exhibit in the areas I am still learning excellence, I take a deep breath and mutter, “Lord, please help me, because I realize that I am not yet virtuous in every area of my life!”

It goes beyond speaking or declaring words like, “it is well”, “all things work together for good”, and “God makes all things beautiful in his time…”.While there’s nothing wrong with these, we need to be sincere with ourselves and make the necessary adjustments that will keep us from the way of negative consequences.

I believe in positive affirmations, and I will always do, but it’s important we commit to, in Sista B’s words, “living beyond and above reproach”. Why should one’s husband lose his mind in anger, before an annoying habit is stopped? Why should we go through the grief of losing great business because we did not meet the appointed time for a meeting? Or why should our friends and loved ones isolate themselves from us because we utter careless words?” Why? Why? Why?

Why do we sit complacently in one position celebrating yesterday’s success instead of improving ourselves and giving the best ‘us’ to our dreams?

Most of us (I inclusive) put ourselves, family and loved ones in jeopardy because of our indiscipline!

After facing the consequences of my indiscipline in time management last week, this week I am determined to form a better habit of time management. I woke up early as usual and did all my in-house duties with focus, acknowledging that I must leave the house at the designated time irrespective of what has to be achieved or what has not been achieved in my home. I was relieved to know that I could actually get to work as early as 7:30 AM!

I know this may sound vague to you, especially if you do not struggle with time management, but think of the other areas of your life where you are still a work in process, and ask the Lord for grace. More importantly, have a conversation with yourself, be honest with yourself, find out what will work for you and implement it.

Sincerity is the first step to forming new habits. Sincerity with one’s self will make one see things as they really are without any prejudice to self or the situation.

My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full Life

Prayer
Father, I ask for your grace to be the virtuous woman that you will have me be. Father, help me to live a disciplined life so that I can deliver on my assignments, blameless in your sight and in peace.

Reference

Proverbs 31:10-31, Psalms 34:18

Sista B is also Known as Bidemi Mark-Mordi, she is one lady who is deliberate about impacting lives especially women, positively. I learn so much when I am around her! Read more about her on www.bidemimarkmordi.com



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