When Life Happens!

Wednesday, May 21, 2014 0 Comments A+ a-



Each time I read this scripture, “Lord, what is man, that You take knowledge of him? Or the son of man that you are mindful of him? Man is like a breath; His days are like a passing shadow”, I always find myself in a ‘Selah’ mood (pause and think mood).
Recently, a lot of sad happenings have been reported around the world. Personally, I got involved emotionally when I first heard of the missing Malaysia Airlines Flight MH370 with over 239 lives on board. 

While still hopeful that the MH370 will be found soon, I got wind of the South Korea ferry disaster with over 462 lives on board. I was still in a ‘Selah mood’ obviously shocked, when back home in Nigeria, we began feeling the heat of the insurgents; from the Nyanya bombings in Abuja, to the abduction of over 243 girls from a school in North Eastern Borno State, to the fear and insecurity among the citizens. These indeed are not the best of times for the families directly involved in these events.

I kept thinking, ‘how will the families of those who lost their loved ones in flight MH370 feel? ’How about the families of the lives lost in the ferry?’ How will they be coping and adjusting to life? Will they still be in shock? How about the #bringbackourgirls campaign? Are the mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, aunties… of the girls able to get a peaceful sleep when they imagine the distress and discomfort of these girls?

Indeed, these are disheartening happenings, very sad times. If you think deeply and think like I do sometimes, the tendency to be depressed will not be far away. I have friends, who attest to not listening to news report most times because it makes them depressed, but the more I think about these, the more I ask myself; ‘what is the way out?’ The reality is that, life happens, no one plans to be in situations like these, but like we all know, life truly happens!

When an individual prone to depression, experiences a traumatic event like any of the above listed ones, it can trigger different emotional response or reaction from that individual. An individual with undiagnosed depression tendencies and who is not on any medication could easily fall into a state of trauma and display different emotional reactions to traumatic events.

David Baldwin’s Trauma Information Pages, suggests that, “people who fully engage in recovery from trauma discover unexpected benefits. As they gradually heal their wounds, survivors find that they are also developing inner strength, compassion for others, increasing self-awareness, and often the most surprising- a greater ability to experience joy and serenity than ever before.”

Aside from taking your medications, resting, eating healthy, exercising, and engaging in other healthy tips, I have personally observed that a lot of efforts have to be exerted by the person in question.


1.     Personally, I find out that I have to guard my thoughts to control my emotions. Joyce Meyer in her book, “Living Beyond Your Feelings: Controlling  Emotions So They Don’t Control You”, teaches that, one way we can actually control our emotions and not let them control us, is by learning the art of self-control. Being in charge of your mind is what self-control means to me. Filter your thoughts. Develop a laudable and acceptable standard by which you can filter your thoughts. I recommend you filter with Philippians 4:8 as much as possible.


2.     Let God’s peace guard your heart. Strive to always be in a peaceful state of mind. A peaceful mind for me is a mind devoid of noise. Do you know your mind could be noisy? Constantly worrying, fearing, planning without the solution in view, to say a few, can make your mind noisy. If you tolerate this trend for too long, it could lead to a state of manic or depression, or worst still, other severe state of mental illness. It is advisable you learn to relax your mind by deliberately guarding your heart with God’s peace. God’s peace is better experienced than explained; it passes all understanding of the situation you may be faced with. Having God’s peace, is having the conviction that God has your back, and His thoughts for you are good to give you an expected end.


3.     The Happenings of life will always be here! Not just around the world, but in our daily life. 1 Corinthians chapter 10:13 encourages us that “ No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make a way of escape, that you may be able to bear it”. The choice is yours; you can allow it scare you, but you can also make up your mind, that they will make you firm; a better and stronger personality. Feel free to take solace in the truth that we have a friend in Jesus, who will all our sorrows bear; Jesus knows our every problem, so why not take it to the Lord in Prayer?



4.     Pray: Talk over your feelings with God in prayer. Pray for the lives departed. Pray for the missing Chibok girls. Pray that there will be peace and tranquility in our world. Pray for your fears. Do not just talk things over with your friends and loved ones; pray also. Prayer is a unique dialogue with your creator; a heartfelt prayer receives speedy response from Him. Philippians 4:6, encourages us thus, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God …”


This write up is basically to encourage myself and everyone out there who identifies with the recent happenings around the world and are affected in one way or the other. Please take heart. Do not stop loving the way we are advised to do in 1 Corinthians 13: 1-8. To stop loving is to stop living. Love will conquer; it’s only a matter of time. Cheer up!



Reference:
Common responses to Trauma & Coping Strategies: http://www.trauma-pages.com/s/t-facts.php
“What a friend We Have in Jesus” written in 1855 by Joseph M. scriven
“Living Beyond Your Feelings: Controlling Emotions So They Don’t Control You.” Written by Joyce Meyer, Copyright 2011.
Scriptural References: 1 Corinthians 13: 1-8, Philippians 4:6, 1 Corinthians 10:13, Philippians 4:8, Psalms 144:3-4.


Prayer
Thank You dear Jesus because in You we have a friend, in You we have Peace. Though the earth be removed, and the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea, though its waters roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with its swelling, we will not fear, because You are our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.


Kindly Remember
·        That you have to take your medication(s) as prescribed by the doctors
·        That you don’t have to avoid your appointments with your physician.
·        That you have to rest well, eat healthy, exercise safely, and avoid stress.
·        That you can pray over your medications that; they will work perfectly for you without side effects.
·        That you can pray to God to perfect all that concerns your mental health.

My name is Precious, I was Bi-polar, and I live a full life

You can send your feedback to idaretoblossom@gmail.com

Plug into Good Works

Wednesday, May 14, 2014 0 Comments A+ a-



Do you sometimes wonder why some people stick to a course or a Job that in your imagination cannot meet their financial expectations or a CEO seems to willingly undergo the rigors of running a brilliant business idea without much financial inputs at the end of the financial year?

Am not trying to justify mediocrity, but in my opinion, I have come to believe that money is not everything, though the bible says that it is a defence; it also warns that the love of money is evil. So while we guard our hearts against the love of money and seek out ways of multiplying it, to enable it defend our needs, we must consciously seek fulfilment along that path.

Fulfilment will come to us when we seek to add value to the lives, organizations or families that God brings our way. If you constantly deal with depression or manic seasons in your life, then you have to deliberately plug into good works. Get excited and passionate about adding value to the lives around you. Do a soul search and find out what moves you to compassion or anger about these lives, then plug into action.

You do not necessarily need to give them money; a word of encouragement, a simile, a hug, a text massage, a listening ear, a surprise visit, voluntary work, an offer to babysit, to say a few. The bottom line is that you are adding value to life. According to Web MD, "Some people find that volunteer work is a good way to get back into the swing of things". Appropriate value demands you study the person (object of value) and yourself (your value system) to know the right approach to use.

Never seek to act without the permission of the person, somehow you will know because you will have basic common interest. If you are female, stick to female and vice visa. If it is female to male or male to female, ensure that the relationship is well defined, let them know your values and your boundaries. 

Values and boundaries naturally characterize every relationship.
In all you do, please let the desire to please God and positively impacting lives be your compelling thought as you plug into good works. With time, fulfilment will come to you and you will spend less time worrying about your mood swings or how people feel
about you. Cheers!

Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I ask for the grace to not only maintain good works but to always plug into good works, so that I will not be found wanting in any way, this I ask in Jesus Name, Amen.


Reference:
Exodus 23:25; Titus 3:14



Kindly Remember
·        That you have to take your medication(s) as prescribed by the doctors
·        That you don’t have to avoid your appointments with your physician.
·        That you have to rest well, eat healthy, exercise safely, and avoid stress.
·        That you can pray over your medications that; they will work perfectly for you without side effects.
·        That you can pray to God to perfect all that concerns your mental health.

My name is Precious, I was Bi-polar, and I live a full life

You can send your feedback to idaretoblossom@gmail.com

WHAT IS THE STATE OF YOUR MIND

Wednesday, May 07, 2014 0 Comments A+ a-





As a child I always wanted to be loved, I felt like and I still feel that life revolves around love. To live without love and loving is to do yourself and our world a great injustice.

So you can imagine the shocked expression on the face of our next door neighbour, when as a seven year old, I took a knife and attempted to stab myself. At that tender age I felt an emptiness in my soul, I expected too much from my parents especially my mum, I just wanted her to express her love to me in a rather unrealistic way that would have turned me to a spoilt brat.

The sad realisation of that incident, as I reflected on it years later, is that those were early signs of depression.

Depression is a state of the mind, when it is devoid of hope. Hope builds on expectation. The scripture says that hope maketh not ashamed. What do you build your hope on, what is your expectation? Until you start seeing differently, speaking differently, you may not experience a different feeling.

This thought is closely related to the Bible based faith, Hebrew 11 as some people like to call it. When Sarah eventually put her hope and expectations in God (The Rewarder of Diligent Seekers), she began to see her situation differently, and thus faith grew in her heart!

 Interestingly, Sarah started to see and speak differently, I believe she started seeing herself pregnant and started talking like an expectant mother. Hence, the scripture says ...by faith Sarah received strength to conceive. Apparently, Sarah’s strength to continue did not come from her age bracket or the situation she found herself.
If you are reading this and you have had depressive seasons in your life or are still undergoing one you have to understand that your mindset has to be adjusted. Understanding the following will help you to easily adjust your mindset.

·        Understand who you are. (your SHAPE)
·        Understand what your destiny entails. (ask God in prayer)
·        Understand who is going with you.(God)
·        Understand your job description. (your purpose)
·        Live your dreams (you can achieve them)

PRAYER:
Lord, You are acquainted with all my ways, You search me and You know me, You know my thoughts from afar and how I feel every second of the day; I commit my thoughts to You, help me to adjust my mindset to Your good, perfect and acceptable will. This I ask in Jesus Name, Amen.

Reference: Psalm 139:1-3; Hebrews 11

Kindly Remember
·        That you have to take your medication(s) as prescribed by the doctors
·        That you don’t have to avoid your appointments with your physician.
·        That you have to rest well, eat healthy, exercise safely, and avoid stress.
·        That you can pray over your medications that; they will work perfectly for you without side effects.
·        That you can pray to God to perfect all that concerns your mental health.

My name is Precious, I was Bi-polar, and I live a full life
You can send your feedback to idaretoblossom@gmail.com